Our culture applauds self-sufficiency, seeking sanctuary, and being ruggedly independent. Yet, doing so can make us feel lonely, misunderstood, and mistreated.
What you crave is closeness and connection—but not just any kind. You desire to be understood, treated compassionately, and told convincingly that you matter. Relationship Intelligence promises to end the cycle of disconnection by teaching you how to resolve the tension that conflict produces and learning the lesson hidden within moments of distress and discouragement. Becoming the person you were always meant to be involves learning how to ‘get along with your mind’ while moving in the direction of increased vulnerability. Stated another way, since you will discover more about yourself from the experience of being in a relationship with others, it makes obvious sense to optimize your relationship intelligence so that your needs get met, and you feel more connected to yourself, your surrounding world, and your future. By doing so, the world becomes a bit less volatile and uncertain. This is why the Relationship Intelligence model’s focus on conflict is vital.